My Professional Geriatric Care Manager hat really gets knocked askew when a product I’ve suggested or solution I’ve offered only becomes valid after one of my mom’s friends or someone at her beauty shop tells her the same thing I’ve told her. It’s enough to make me pull off my big fat PGCM hat and stomp it into the ground right in front of my dear sweet mother. Alas, the reason for the stomping would be entirely lost on her. I would rise from picking up my crushed and dirty hat to meet with that oh so familiar disapproving crossed-arms posture and that “do-we-need-a-time-out” look. Sigh….

Whatever your profession is, and regardless of how well you are respected in it, in the eyes of your parents you may forever be “the baby.” Save yourself a lot of grief by bringing in another professional to work with your parents. Be sure a reference list is provided on the off-chance that friends of your parents have never heard of them. An outside professional may prove to be better at finding creative and palatable solutions for all involved simply because they are free of emotional bias. Basically, get over your own feelings in favor of getting something accomplished for the sake of those you love.

Club members are encouraged to share expressions of solidarity here. Email me for info. about the next support group meeting.

Connie